Giving Up

Giving up.

You might be thinking to yourself "this is not going to be a typical cheerful blog day". Not that all of the posts that I write are cheerful, but I think that most of the posts that I write have a message of hope to them.

When I talk about giving up it does not mean throwing up your hands and walking away - but those lives lived with a brain injury give up many things on both sides of the equation.

Families give up time together to keep the peace; parties and social events that cause fatigue and headaches; Christmas celebrations and family reunions.

Survivors give up jobs, sports, leisure activities; they give up friendships that don't understand, peers that leave, and they give up hope of every being normal again.

Spouses give up sex lives, best friendships, time alone and time together; they leave jobs, lose friends, and lose themselves.

Kids give up a parent, loving connection and security.  They give up hope that the real Mom or Dad will come back, and the imposter is here to stay.

Vacations, choir concerts, baseball games and graduations.

Fishing trips, tennis matches, rough-housing and home improvements.

We give up, not because we are leaving, but to survive another day with moments that are livable, functional, and doable.

We give up so we can stay together.

5 thoughts on “Giving Up

  1. Jen

    Feeling too far away....but watching, with admiration, how you continue to meet your challenges and survive another day. Cheering you on... love, Jen

  2. Lauren

    As a caregiver for eight years, I wish this would be handed to all medical personnel, caregivers, family and friends at the onset of the TBI. You have so eloquently stated the obvious, that was not obvious to most of us until it was so late into the process. Well done Lisabeth!
    With gratitude,

  3. Stephanie Frager

    You write so beautifully and are able to capture the harsh reality in such an eloquent way. I wish we were closer. Love you, my friend.


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